how to develop confidence in leadership qualities
Leadership starts with confidence. Believing you can do what needs to be done to get the job completed is half the battle. If you lack self-esteem, stop pondering the things you are unable to do, and consider the things you can do. Everyone has talents; your only hindrance is negative thinking. But you own the power to do your own thinking: you must simply devote a little more effort to overcome any negativity.
The development of self-confidence is relatively easy, but it first requires a desire to be self-confident, and then some patience and intellectual effort. Keep in mind that this is a process that can’t be rushed.
- Learn about leadership. Take a course, read a few books and study the great leaders. Learn what leaders do and don’t do. Learn the frameworks, tools and skills required to lead. The more you know about a subject, including leadership, the more confident you’ll be.
- Network with other leaders. While it’s good to learn about leadership from courses and reading, putting those ideas into practice is hard and mistakes will be made. Having a network or support group of peers is a healthy way to share common, real-world challenges. It will give you the knowledge that “I’m not the only one who feels this way.”
- Develop realistic self-awareness. Knowing your leadership strengths will give you confidence, and facing up to your development needs will help you determine what you need to focus on to get better.
Feedback will give a leader realistic self-awareness. Plus, leaders who ask for feedback are seen as more confident than those who don’t.
- Help others be more successful. Leadership confidence isn’t just about building your own track record of wins. The essence of leadership is helping others around you become more successful. Help others gain self-awareness, coach them and help put them in the best position to be successful.
- Look confident. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Losing weight, getting in shape, a new pair of glasses, new hairstyle, a new suit or a new pair of shoes can make you feel and look more confident. Watch your posture, make eye contact, smile and use a firm grip when you shake hands.
- Develop your emotional intelligence (EQ). Self-confidence is the mark of an emotionally intelligent leader. EQ isn’t something you are born with; it too can be learned and developed.
- Ask others for help. Confident leaders know what they know and what they don’t know and are not afraid to ask for help. They draw on the talents of others without feeling threatened.
- Laugh more: They can see the humor, even in challenging situations, and have the ability to put things into perspective. They also laugh sooner and more often.
- Are motivated and ambitious: They set goals and are motivated to accomplish them. They believe that the work they do is important and makes a difference in the company or even the world.
- Think for themselves: They have a deep sense of their core values – what is right and wrong, and although open to feedback from others, confidently form their own opinion or pick their own course of action. They are easy to follow, because their words and actions are in alignment and consistent.